FAQs

First, please take a moment and breath. You have likely been impacted by a narcissist or narcissistic person. Either way, the diagnosis is not what is important.

Are you safe? 

If you do not feel safe and you feel your life is in danger, please contact 9-1-1.

Contact the Domestic Violence Hotline 1.800.700.SAFE | Text START to 88788

You may need a safety plan & other resources. Take your life seriously and do not underestimate anyone, especially an abuser. You may need to request a temporary restraining order. Do not allow an abuser’s emotions to keep you from doing what is best for you & your safety.

* 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men have been victims of [some form of] physical violence by an intimate partner within their lifetime

* On average, nearly 20 people per minute are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States

* Only 34% of people who are injured by intimate partners receive medical care for their injuries

* Domestic violence accounts for 15% of all violent crime

* On a typical day, there are more than 20,000 phone calls placed to domestic violence hotlines nationwide

* The presence of a gun in a domestic violence situation increases the risk of homicide by 500%

* 72% of all murder-suicides involve an intimate partner; 94% of the victims of these murder-suicides are female

* Women between the ages of 18-24 are most commonly abused by an intimate partner

Source: https://ncadv.org/2021DVAM

CBU is a one-of-a-kind group coaching, discipleship, mentorship, and deliverance program. 

It is a Kingdom program that is founded on Kingdom principles. CBU takes women who survived narcissistic families, relationships, workplaces, etc., & equips them for spiritual warfare and restoration. Chosen ones are often in the Spiritual Intensive Care Unit (ICU). CBU helps them overcome the isolation, build community, and go from wounded to warriors in Yeshua!

We sever soul ties, deal with ruminating thoughts, dismantle trauma bonds, disrupt curses, destroy ancestral cycles, and break the chains of narcissist abuse, link by link! 

As your Kingdom Coach, I:

*EMPOWER

*EDUCATE

*EXHORT

*EDIFY

*SUPPORT

*COACH

*DISCIPLE

*BUILD

The first two iterations of CBU will be held during live coaching sessions in a safe, healing space. Learn more about CBU here! 

Chain Breaker University’s (CBU) Mentorship program will begin on January 12, 2023! These empowering sessions are held via Zoom in a safe space on Thursdays at 6:30pm CST.

This is a narcissist abuse recovery program and sisterhood like no other. For more information visit: https://narcfreeliving.com/chain-breaker-university-cbu-mentorship-sisterhood-program-register-today/

This program is for you if one or any of the following applies:

• You feel stuck.
• You are sick and tired of being sick and tired.
• You don’t know where to begin.
• You are tired of people walking over you.
• You completed CBU Fall or Summer session(s) and you are ready to go deeper!
• Are you searching for a safe space committed to healing, supporting, and recovering from narcissist abuse? 
• Would you like to be surrounded by other queen prayer warriors? 
• Are you ready to elevate, level up, and glow up in Yahshua!

I am a life coach, not a doctor that specializes in diagnosing what the psychology community calls Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), or any of the spectrum of the dark triad personality types, according to the Diagnostic Statistics Manual (DSM-5). That being said, from the spiritual perspective God gives us wisdom and discernment. The bible advises us to test every person’s spirit by the Holy Spirit. The world calls them personality types. The bible calls them demons and unclean spirits which directly affect a person’s mind, body, spirit, and soul.

We examine each person’s character and patterns of behavior to determine what spirit they are operating in. Better yet, even with or without a medical diagnosis, examine how the person treats you, how you feel around them, and if you are treated with honor, respect, and love. God’s word tells us exactly what love is. Does it line up with 1 Corinthians 13:8? Yes, then it is a God-sent love. No? Then it is counterfeit love. 

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There are godly and ungodly soul ties. Anytime we enter a relationship of any kind, we establish a bond or intertwining of spirits. The world calls them soul ties.

Godly soul ties are relationships that God ordains – as in godly marriages. Ungodly soul ties cause a person = to be manipulated and controlled by another person, – which in turn causes them – to live in disobedience to God.

To heal and sever emotional attachments we must do the soul in inner work. We must be spiritually delivered.

Let’s break those chains!

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Watch the video titled Soul Tie Discussion video for an in-depth discussion: https://youtu.be/zG7Siin3jzQ

Watch this video that explains soul ties in detail.

Keep those boundaries tight and listen to the Holy Spirit, or what some may call “intuition.” Do not gaslight yourself or try to talk yourself out of listening to what your body & spirit tells you about a person. It is usually true. Narcissists are always looking for ways to test you to gauge what type of supply you will be and what resources you can provide to them. Narcissists are demonized by demonic and unclean spirits. Yes, Believers can have unclean spirits as well. Narcissists are the physical embodiment of Satan and his demonic forces in human flesh as they possess his characteristics. 

Discernment, RIGHTEOUS LIVING (not religion), the Word of God, praise, spiritual warfare, fasting, prayer life, & the Holy Spirit are your weapons against demons.

What you feed your spirit daily matters!

Are you in need of narcissist recovery coaching and spiritual deliverance counseling?

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Most people that have narcissistic relationships don’t realize they were groomed since birth for narcissistic abuse. As always, we don’t diagnose, but we do discern. The Jezebel spirit is rampant in families, workplaces, schools, and beyond.

This video discusses:

*Signs of a narcissistic mother

*Psychology vs. God’s view on narcissism

*Why it is taboo in our society to discuss mothers in a less than nonperfect light?

*How do you honor your narcissistic mother? *How do you heal? Let’s heal & break those chains!

What happens when parents & family don’t really want the good of their children? What if your family seeks to dominate, control, and silence you? You likely have an ungodly soul tie. The bible tells us to get away from those who try to harm us & break the soul tie – even if it is our “family.” God oftentimes removes them from our lives for our protection. 

“What happens when parents constantly criticize their children, abuse them, and essentially stifle any good that the children could achieve? . . . Well, parents such as this don’t love their children because they don’t truly love God either. These parents have broken the first commandment, and, to their children, that makes them enemies, not parents. And we don’t honor enemies.  We pray for them.” (Matthew 5:44) Dr. Raymond Richmond

Watch this video: https://youtu.be/APaessxD_r8

Above all, understand that narcissists do not typically change & that they are filled with evil intentions and demonic spirits. This pertains to family, work, friends, & interpersonal relationships. 

Living & being in contact with a narcissist is a choice only the victim can make. I am here to simply inform you of the life that awaits you should you choose to remain in a narcissistic, abusive relationship of any kind. 

Come to terms with:

*They will not change. Therapists & psychology cannot counsel or change demons.

*Narcissists are not loyal to anyone. They typically have addictions, financial issues, sexual & porn addictions because of their constant need to be validated. 

*The narcissist was sent to siphon your purpose in God. (Python spirit)

*People in your family & social circles will believe the narcissist. They must control how people view you. The more you defend yourself the crazier you appear to those around you. (Jezebel spirit)

*They have been & will continue to smear your name. The lies will intensify should they feel threatened, rejected, or abandoned. (Leviathan spirit) In Christ, there is true freedom. God does not want anyone abused or in bondage.

Watch this video: https://youtu.be/eK2vmLSgGYc

I always say Jezebel gets a lot of attention, rightfully so, but Leviathan (the king of pride) and Python (the constricting spirit of divination) are just as dangerous to your destiny.

Python is a lesser-discussed spirit. This is a strong man spirit that affects many in the Body of Christ and throughout this world, unnecessarily so. Are you free from the spirit of Python and divination? Correction to a statement in the video: Many are so blinded & invested in idolatry, that they are NOT able to see and are spiritually blinded to the Word of God.

Narcissists are like LEGION. They are demonized by MANY other demonic and unclean spirits. The very good news is that Jesus Christ conquered ALL on the cross for us. Believers have the authority and power to cast out demons in HIS name. Do not fear demons. REPENT. Come out of agreement with them and command them to GO in Jesus’ name. A lifestyle of prayer, God’s Word, praise, repentance, and obedience is required to keep your house clean from them entering again once they are cast out.

I offer various options for all survivors across all demographics and budgets. Please understand that coaching, therapy, or counseling is an investment into YOU. You get out of anything what YOU put into it and coaching is no different. Sowing seeds into Kingdom business and ministries yields a great return in many ways. As a coach, mentor, and minister of the Gospel, I invest and put lots of hard work into videos, workshops, live streams, and free services to ensure that we provide resources to survivors. These are sacrifices of time, resources, and money.

If you are unable to book a session at this time, you may use Wisio to ask a question. I am unable to respond to every email, text message, or voicemail. I do respond to every Wisio. It is a low-cost option to receive coaching at a very affordable rate. If you have a question, you receive a personalized video for your specific situation. The video is sent securely to you. https://www.wisio.com/ShannonSavoy

Another option to obtain helpful information is subscribing to my YouTube channel. I do not provide coaching via social media, DM’s or backchannel chat rooms.

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We do things in EXCELLENCE! We want to continue providing a first-rate experience to CBU mentorship mentees, availability & coaching services will be focused on those in CBU.

Coaching is limited to those currently enrolled in Breaker University Mentorship Program so that we can continue to protect the oil as we break chains! 1:1 coaching appointments will be announced as they become available. Make sure you check our newsletter, YouTube community tab, & website for updates!

Accessibility is purposeful, focused, & limited to current mentees. Narc Free Living is not resourced to provide legal, rescue, shelter, & emergency services. If it’s YAH’s will, then it’s HIS bill. Jehovah Jireh provides!

Here’s how to connect:

• CBU Mentorship Coaching (commences January 12, 2023). We have 30 & 90-day plans.
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