Narc Free Living®

Narcissist & Betrayal

A narcissist is a person who is extremely indulged in self-love. A narcissist is a selfish, self-centered person. He needs an excessive need for attention and admiration. They have disturbed interpersonal relationships.

Narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths are betrayal-masters. The betrayal is only a matter of sport for them & for others, it is severe psychological, emotional, spirit,ual and mental damage.

Betrayal is something more painful than cheating. It’s a false representation of someone’s intention. Any type of loss in a relationship is painful but in the case of betrayal, it’s more excruciating.

People throughout the world are silently abused by narcissists. A narcissist has an exceptional ability to seek sympathy and security from people surrounding them.

Sadly, few of us cant spot a narcissist in our relationships. People keep themselves hurting throughout their lives.

What does God’s word say?

What are the signs of a narcissist?

From a psychological perspective, narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a mental health condition. The person is involved in the extreme need for attention and a sense of self-importance. Narcissists seek validation from others. They have superficial relationships and lack empathy. From a spiritual perspective, narcissists are demonic scoffers.

2nd Peter 3:3 warns us that “in the last day’s scoffers will come, scoffing and following their own evil desires.”

They said to you, “In the last time there will be scoffers, following their own ungodly passions.”

3 But understand this, that in the last days there will come times of difficulty. 2 For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, 3 heartless, unappeasable, …

Let’s highlight a few signs of narcissist that can help you to spot narcissism.

1. They are highly insecure

They are highly insecure, so they look for others to fulfill them.

Narcissists look for security. It’s not personal to them but it’s highly personal to victims of narcissist abuse.

They have an incomplete and unbalanced personality therefore they need someone to complete them.

They are takers, they always search for those who are givers. They don’t have the limitation of how much they will take from a person?

They look for everything they inherently don’t have. They are in survival mode all the time on the hunt.

2. Exaggerated need of validation

A narcissist needs a constant need of attention and validation.  They are the predators some more, some less, this is why they cheat.

They want to keep their partner engage by asking for the things or keep something to grab your attention.

They seek people to surround them. They think the more people they surround the more backup they have in case if someone leaves.

Their formula of attention is quite simple.  More numbers more security, more security. It makes them wanted and needed all the time.

Despite all their bragging and boasting or grandiose, they are insecure. The narcissist needs an unstoppable supply of praise and approvals from others.

3. Lack of empathy

The narcissist has a lack of empathy. They don’t care about how the other person feels. A narcissist lacks the skill of making others validated, accepted, or understood.

The means of an overflow of narcissist supply is significant in their behaviors.

If you as a victim try to give them the silent treatment, they are entertaining and talking about you to others.

They keep speaking with others while you speak with no one. Because you are trying to figure out, what happened?

4. They are egocentric

A narcissist is an egocentric person. They don’t feel ashamed or guilty of what they have done with others.

They don’t even think of themselves for the emotional and psychological damage they have done to others.

Ego strokes their false self must always be stroked and catered to.

Leaving the people helpless, shattered, and devastated is part of their game.

5. They are horrible with finances

A narcissist is a predator. They search for anyone who can not only bear their ugly personalities but their dirty finances too.

They trap people with their charming personalities and ambidexterity.

Ways A Narcissist betray their partner

A relationship with a narcissist is a fairy tale in beginning. Over time, a narcissist starts showing their true colors.

The past dream dates become the worst nightmare. Anyone can be a victim of narcissist abuse, but individuals with emotional abuse and trauma fall for them.

Betrayal is a part of a narcissist personality. A narcissist can stop himself from betrayal. After all, the abuse and betrayal flow in their blood.

There are few ways, a narcissist can betray you. Have a look

• Pornography
• Triangulation
• Lying them to others
• Betraying your secrets to others
• Infidelity

The people who experience betrayal by their narcissist partner face different mental and social pressures.

The betrayal leads to certain health and emotional traumas. One of the major issues is CPTSD.

Summary

Betrayal whether from a family member, a friend, or an intimate partner causes a dramatic breach of trust. When a spouse or partner betrays you they are creating a soul tie with the external partner that you will have to contend with.

The shocking turn of events disrupts our lives, compromises our safety, and overwhelms us.

The betrayal is not the reflection of your character, it’s a sign of their character.

Remember, narcissists, are always in numbers. Their goal is to collect people on their side, so you feel alone and more betrayed by others.

Just keep yourself focused, cool and calm. No one on the earth is allowed to make you unhappy or shattered.

Staying connected to your loved ones is the best therapy. We only live once, make the most of our life. Be a reason for someone’s happiness.

Watch this video as we discuss the narcissist from a biblical perspective and how to overcome to truly break those chains.