Narcissist Abuse
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Society presents an image that all parents are good parents and that all parents love and want the best for their children. Sadly this is not the case. This is not the experience of those with narcissistic families.
“Well, parents such as this don’t love their children because they don’t truly love God either. These parents have broken the first commandment, and, to their children, that makes them enemies, not parents. And we don’t honor enemies. We pray for them.(Matthew 5:44) This, therefore, shows that the assumption made in the commandment about honoring parents is that fathers and mothers love God, are living holy lives, and care for their children, and want their good. So what happens when parents don’t really want the good of their children? What happens when parents constantly criticize their children, abuse them, and essentially stifle any good that the children could achieve? “- Dr. Raymond Richmond
Ungodly Soul Ties & Generational Curses in Families
Some parents want to be worshipped and to control their children. They make their children indebted to them for life. This is an ungodly soul tie. God tells us to honor our fathers and mothers so that we learn from their wisdom. Parents are supposed to be a representation of God’s unconditional love. Enabling and keeping ties with demonically influenced people is not honoring them. It is enabling them.
Toxic parents & families use the command to honor them as a cover to perpetrate evil and abuse.
Parents are not gods. They should not be worshipped. Narcissistic families are ruled by the Jezebel spirit, seeking to control, dominate, and usurp God’s authority and plans.
How do you honor your parents – by following God and His plan for our lives, it is not permissible for them to do evil and for families to sit quietly and be ok with abuse”
We are generational curse breakers.
We honor our parents by discontinuing their toxic cycles and by going no contact with the people who continue in the toxicity & evil doing. Gossipping, pathologically lying, scapegoating, pride & evil-doers are all things that God abhors.
We forgive them and pray for them from a distance if need be. And as I always say if you are not there yet, seek God. You do not want unforgiveness to keep you yoked to and in bondage unnecessarily.
Is it not dishonoring your parents or family for telling the truth about abuse.
Narcissistic families sweep evil and abuse under the rug, and they disassociate the person who speaks up. It is often a cult or mafia-type loyalty. Phrases like, “what happens in the family stay in the family.” “Family over everything.” However, you cannot speak up – even with other family members.
What are the signs of an abusive and narcissistic family?
❉ They want to control you.
❉ They tried to control you through guilt & codependency to make you dependent on them even through adulthood.
❉ They had a “favorite”, “golden” child, or scapegoat,& invisible child. These roles were interchangeable at any time.
❉ They guilt you for simply being born. You owe them your life because they were there for you as if you asked to be here. You are taught to always put everyone first above yourself.
❉ They have a high sense of entitlement & groom you to take care of them as they grow older. (Understand that This is your choice – not your duty, led by the Holy Spirit. – especially if you have a narcissistic family)
❉ They present a picture-perfect family image to outsiders. Image is everything.
❉ Family is highly secretive and loyalty is expected. If you disagree or do something that displeases you are met with silent treatment until you get back in line.
Watch the video for the remainder of the signs.
Love, friendships, families, work environments, etc., are not about how much abuse you can take.
How do you know when it’s time to walk away?
✘ When you are not respected.
✘ After you laid boundaries & articulated them and they are still not adhered to.
✘ When you are disrespected, lied on, lied to, manipulated, betrayed with no sincere apology, remorse & no real conversation or changed actions.
✘ Your issues are invalidated, mocked, & belittled.
✘ You are gaslit & made to seem like you are “too much”, “crazy”, or a drama king/queen for not enabling abuse.
✓ Learn when to throw up your deuces. Keep your crown held high.
Family is not a license to abuse.
Bible scriptures:
Depart from me, you evildoers, For I will keep the commandments of my God! Psalm 119:115
Take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness, but instead expose them. Ephesians 5:11
And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord. Ephesians 6:4
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Get Up & Walk! Are You Desperate Yet?
God has already equipped you! You are not waiting on God. God is waiting on you. Activate your faith. Don’t be passive about your healing. Be intentional! God wants people who want Him. Be desperate for Christ in your life.
The woman who touched Jesus’ hem?
The man at Bethesda?
They were desperate for healing.
Are you desperate and intentional about your healing?
That’s right where God wants you!
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Yes! It Was All A Lie
One of the hardest conclusions for narcissist survivors to come to is that EVERYTHING was a lie.
Narcissists are ultra fake, demonically influenced “persons” in human form. They are able to fool others by charming and appealing to other’s good-hearted nature.
Was it all a lie? Yes.
The future faking.
The love you thought the narcissist had for you.
The so-called “kind” person that is filled with narcissistic spirits & has everyone fooled.
The friend that betrays your trust and tells your secrets.
The family that stands by narcissists who enable abuse and is cloaked in secrecy.
The co-worker that befriends you then proceeds to steals your ideas and smears your name.
Narcissists pretend to be everything but what they really are inside, which is evil, unclean demonic spirits that enable them to pathologically lie and betray without absolutely zero remorse.
But understand it is not you. What happened was not your fault, but healing is your responsibility.
Don’t take on the narcissist’s projected hatred of themselves. The guilt & shame is not yours to bear.
Everything about the narcissist is a complete, fabrication of deception, control, & manipulation. Now it’s time to heal. 💛
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10 Things To Never Do With A Narcissist!
Watch the video for the entire list.
There’s a quote that says: “Before borrowing money from a friend decide which you need the most.”If you are in a narcissistic relationship of any kind here is list of recommendations that you do not want to do.
The first three are:
- Do not co-sign.
- Be careful with lease agreements.
- Think twice about being on the same phone carrier account.
Here’s why:
Narcissists are not normal, rational people. They are filled with demons in human form. They love money & will do anything to get it.
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The wicked borrow and do not repay, but the righteous give generously. Psalm 37:21
The way of a fool seems right to him. But wise people listen to words that help them. Proverbs 12:15
For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows. 1 Timothy 6:10 KJV
The rich ruleth over the poor, and the borrower is servant to the lender. Proverbs 22:7
When we do not have to borrow money that is a blessing from the Lord. Typically when we are obedient & listen to the Lord’s instruction & handle our money wisely we will not be in debt.
God doesn’t want us to be a slave to anyone. We should seek God instead of lenders. The borrower is a slave.
The rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is slave to the lender. Proverbs 22:7
But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Matthew 6:33
Proceed with caution. Examine the fruit. Above all, seek the Holy Spirit & test the spirit by the Spirit.
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Narc Free Living Spreaker Podcasts, Interviews, & Radio Broadcasts
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Make Them Regroup!
Watch here!
Your enemies tried to take you out. They lied on you. They tried to turn everyone against you. Oh, but remember who God says you are!
- They tried everything in their power to break you.
- Do you know how strong you have to be the outcast, the Black Sheep, the Scapegoat?
Oh, but God!
- Do you know how hard it is to stand strong with your head held high in front of the very people – who you want to save but they want to smear your name?
- Do you know how hard it is to pray for these same people?
To forgive them?
Oh, it’s easy to love those who love you, it is a whole other to love those who you know that hate you.
It is only by the Holy Spirit. God is our Redeemer. In Him, we cannot fail.
Make ‘em regroup. Stand on God’s word!
“I know that you can do all things; no purpose of yours can be thwarted.” Job 42:2
“The LORD will vindicate me; your love, LORD, endures forever— do not abandon the works of your hands.” Psalms 138:8
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The Dangers Of Strangulation
“When a woman is strangled, it greatly increases the risk of later being the victim of an attempted homicide or being killed increases dramatically.”
Strangulation is often used in domestic abuse situations to control another person.
It is one of the most lethal forms of domestic violence as the potential to render the victim unconscious can happen within seconds and death within minutes of the act.
Take note of men & women who like to act out violence in sexual activities. This may be an indicator they have a proclivity towards abuse or that they have been a victim of abuse themselves.
- Most people who have been strangled by a domestic partner tend to reduce the act as “not serious”. Do not minimize the act and press charges! Do not feel bad about reporting the incident. It is just as bad and even worse as hitting. It is domestic violence.
- People confuse choking with strangulation.
- Choking is an object blocking your airway. When someone is choking, there is some sort of foreign object inside the body that is restricting the flow of oxygen.
- When strangulation occurs, there is an outside force exerting enough pressure to block the movement of oxygen to the brain.
- Examples of strangulation include a person using their hands around a person’s neck, or a ligature, or by hanging.
“Research shows that roughly 10% of domestic violence victims are strangled. In fact, non-fatal strangulation is a significant predictor for future violence, and people who were strangled by their partner are at a 6 to 10 times greater risk of being murdered by their abuser.”
Please take strangulation seriously! If have been strangled by your spouse, your partner, or anyone else IT IS NOT OK.
Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline can help connect you to local resources. Call 1-800-799-7233 to speak to someone today.
Resources: Life and Death in Your Hands: Strangulation more common in domestic abuse cases
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A Narcissist Is Dangerous To Your Destiny
Watch here: https://youtu.be/MCRnd4F90xs
God instructs us to pray – not stay with or around people who are angry, liars, violent, wicked, gossipers, slanderous, those who participate in evil works, adulterous, & heartless.
A narcissist is dangerous because they come to kill, steal, & destroy.
Narcissists come to:
*Distract
*Disrupt
*Deny
*Destroy
*Discombobulate
*Dismantle
*Delay
And to put you, your life & your destiny in disarray.
What does God’s Word say?
Do not be deceived, bad company corrupts good character. 1 Corinthians 15:33
An ungodly man diggeth up evil: and in his lips, there is as a burning fire. A froward man soweth strife: and a whisperer separateth chief friends. A violent man enticeth his neighbor and leadeth him into a way that is not good. He shutteth his eyes to devise froward things: moving his lips he bringeth evil to pass. Proverbs 16:27-30 KJV
“Some people we are to avoid friendship with include: the violent man (Proverbs 16:29, Proverbs 1:10-12), the wicked man (Proverbs 12:26, Proverbs 4:14-17), the gossip (Proverbs 16:28), the perverse (Proverbs 16:30), those who engage in deeds of darkness (Ephesians 5:11, Proverbs 2:12), the thief (Proverbs 1:10-19), and the adulterous woman (Proverbs 2:16-19). Furthermore, 2 Timothy 3:1-5 tells us we should not be friends with lovers of self, lovers of money, the proud, the abusive, those disobedient to parents, the ungrateful, the heartless, lovers of pleasure, etc.
“We are likely to be faced with a toxic relationship sometime in our lives. This might be someone very close to us, like our own parent, or someone in leadership such as a boss. Whatever you face, understand that these relationships are not a blessing from the Lord. When the devil wants to tear you down, he will send people to do so. Learn that these types of behaviors are not healthy, and do what is necessary to remove yourself from the situation.”
“Being angry and frustrated by a toxic situation, the relationship is perfectly normal. Typically, that’s our mind’s way of alerting us to the fact that something is very wrong. If you’re in a toxic environment, you do not need to “get used to it” or “just get over it.” God wants you to remove yourself from these situations.”
Above all, if you are in a relationship, family, friendship, etc., with a narcissist, someone filled with demonic spirits – seek, LISTEN, & OBEY the Holy Spirit, over any woman or man.
Ask Jehovah for HIS protection & instruction.
A wise man will hear and will increase learning, and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels. Proverbs 1:5 KJV
For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her. Ephesians 5:25
He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord. Proverbs 18:22
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 1 Corinthians 13:4-5
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Does The Narcissist Miss You?
Nope! And here is why you should not care!
Deliver a knockout punch to the narcissists in your life. They do not deserve you, your time, your energy, your love, or your attention.
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10 Things A Narcissist Does Not Want You To Know
A narcissist is the embodiment of Satan personified in human form. They are master manipulators who will do anything to keep their facade under wraps. They are demonic spirits who must inhabit flesh in order to carry out the wiles & schemes of their father – Satan.
You see flesh. You may see a nice looking person. Inside they are ravenous wolves, seeking whom they may devour.
Narcissists appear confident on the outside. However, on the inside, they are insecure children who have chosen to operate in agreement with their false self.
They appear strong or like bullies but inside they are cowards who turn to demons & a demonic mindset to verbalize their true feelings.
They appear charming and sweet on the outside. As if they would do anything for you. But everything comes with strings attached; they desire your attention, compliments, and you buying into their image to survive.
Narcissists gaslight, project, hoover, use smear campaigns, pathologically lie, & give the silent treatment to control to inflict emotional abuse on their victims.
Watch the video to hear ten things a narcissist does not want you to know.
What would you add to this list?
