I walked away from a toxic, enmeshed family system.

This post will either bless you or offend you. I am not here to pacify or coddle. I am here as a survivor, to tell you the truth in love and boldness and to support those that want to break free from demonic oppression. Someone needs this strong word. I pray it blesses and strengthens those who also are called out.

It was not easy to walk away & it was not without much prayer & a release from The Most High. My story is much like Joseph’s whose own brothers wanted him dead because of the wickedness & jealousy in their hearts.

Please do not EVER feel sorry for a THRIVER of abuse. We are no one’s victim. We are WARRIORS. ⚔️ Since going no contact, I have FREEDOM that I have never felt. I have Holy Spirit peace that surpasses ALL understanding. The Blood Of Yahshua broke the spiritual grasp of Jezebel, Python, generational curses of lack, sexual immorality, molestation, depression, anxiety, PTSD, & delay. The altars of witchcraft, division, divination, sexual perversion, backwardness, theft, murder, jealousy, etc, were broken off of my life, my husband, & my children’s lives. You see, people who know nothing about the spiritual realm think because I choose to be estranged from a demonic system that something is wrong with me. No, my dear. WE are LIVING. WE ARE FREE.

You couldn’t pay me Bill Gates, Jeff Bezos, Rothchild, or Rockefeller dirty money to go back into that devil’s den, especially when Holy Spirit pulled me OUT. Unless YHWH directs me and their spirits have been tested. 

Let me share a part of my TESTIMONY:

My life changed for the better AS SOON AS I WENT NO CONTACT. Curses were lifted. Supernatural growth, healing, & transformation happened in my life & marriage. That may not be your experience or testimony but it is MINE. YAH HAD WORK FOR ME TO DO. As soon as I severed the soul ties & did my inner healing things began to SHIFT SUDDENLY IN MY LIFE. My business & ministry were birthed out of my pain. YAH turned my pain into my PURPOSE. I could not speak BOLDLY as long as I was tied to them.

I went no contact in January or February of 2020 & in March 2020 Narc Free Living LLC was legally formed. Before no contact, I did not dream. I didn’t know what my true calling was. When Holy Spirit took me through deliverance, I repented of my and my ancestor’s sins & idolatry. I renounced generational curses and then I got to WORK. I became certified in narcissistic abuse & trauma recovery. I attended business classes and training (and still do).  I learned from the RUACH spiritual warfare, deliverance, & how to help others be free from demonic systems & oppression. Now I have ideas that flow nonstop, visions, and godly dreams that are much too big for me to handle alone. 

My tagline is BREAKING THE CHAINS OF ABUSE. Yah was very strategic in my branding, marketing, & business structure.

I began uploading YouTube videos in late October/November 2020 only because my husband advised me to. I never ever wanted a public platform. I was comfortable playing the back. YAH obviously had other plans. I started with one follower, again, my husband. 🫶🏾 The power of a Kingdom marriage is unmatched. This business & ministry has taken off ever since. As of this writing, Narc Free Living LLC has become a global ministry with coaching clients from all over the world. 

In July 2022, Holy Spirit formulated Chain Breaker University to help other women who were tired of being sick and tired. Women who are ready to break every chain of generational trauma. In January 2023, the mentorship program will commence & I’ll help other women give BIRTH. BIRTH to their new lives. BIRTH to their new businesses & ministries. REBIRTH of their inner child. BIRTH to their new spiritual family. It’s BIRTHING SEASON.

Feel sorry for a THRIVER? No, my dear, I feel sorry for those who stay. I feel sorry for those who do not believe there is life beyond abuse or outside of their relatives, and community. WE are walking testimonies of what God’s glory looks like when you walk in OBEDIENCE & place trust in HIM completely.

The truly sad part is that this world & family is temporal. The sad part to me is being emotionally, psychologically, physiologically, spiritually, sexually, and sometimes physically abused by “family” & feeling guilt, shame, & condemnation for going no contact with people that cannot truly love me?!

Most don’t understand that physically leaving a narcissist is ONE link in their chain. You must go through SPIRITUAL ICU to truly be free. That is what my coaching programs, Rock Your Crown events, services, workshops, and coaching sessions are all about. This is so not about the narcissist. But unfortunately, a vast majority of victims, stay stagnant & stuck, learning about the five ways and ten signs of the narcissist but failing to go beyond that.

Feel sorry for us? For coming out of this world? Out of biological families to be given spiritual families? For coming out of Babylon with people who willingly choose to play the harlot & drink from the cup of the whore? For coming out of Idolatry & enmeshment with “family”? For coming out of people who never protected us from narcissistic abuse? No.

Nahhh, fam, do not EVER feel sorry for me or anyone that comes out of a narcissistic “family”. Some people are relatives, related by biology 🧬 & DNA. But you see Chain Breaker, our DNA has been changed! We have been made new. We have been made over by the Blood and sharing of my testimony! The good news is that YOU can too.

And while we are on the subject, here are a few tips should you encounter someone like me or a Chain Breaker who has finally broken the chains of a toxic family system:

• Please do not say:
  Well, that’s still your father/mother.
  (We know that and are well aware of that fact. 😑)

• Honor your father & mother
  (without quoting, “If anyone causes one of these little ones—those who believe in me—to stumble, it would be better for them to have a large millstone hung around their neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea.” My biological parents were simply the vessels to get me here. I honor them by living for GOD. I honor my mother for taking me to church. That laid an important foundation. Yah uses all things for HIS GLORY & PURPOSES.
• You can miss me with applying scripture to people who don’t live by it. 💅🏽 I am far from a baby Believer. That won’t guilt trip you are trying to take me on work on me.)

• Family over everything!
  (No, YHWH over everything!)

• It’s two sides to every story!
  🫠 (Just go on over there 👉🏾 and STAY there)

• Why don’t you try talking to THEM?
  (No one in their right mind that has spoken & dealt with a narcissist would say this to a victim of narcissist abuse. They have ALREADY tried a zillion times. We know full well about gaslighting, word salad, them playing the victim (I did the best I could! 😏), circular conversations that lead nowhere, & guilting. DO YOU?

• Why are you talking about this NOW?! 🤡 It’s been YEARS since that happened!
  (If you choose to speak publicly about private abuse, trust and believe the victim has TRIED EVERYTHING THEY KNOW POSSIBLY TO DO! Narcissists ONLY respond to abuse when their image or livelihood is threatened. And it takes YEARS for a survivor TO PROCESS EMOTIONS AND COME TO THE REALIZATION THAT WE WERE ABUSED!)

• Well, they were abused too!
  We have compassion & empathy which is part of why most of us stayed so long. So do not try to guilt or shame or bring up their abuse as a pity ploy. We were abused as well & somehow we didn’t turn into demonic clowns that go around tormenting & manipulating people who love us for sh!ts & giggles. We are not rehab centers for broken people. We are no longer on the Suicide Squad! On a suicide mission straight from the pits of devil hell. Miss me with that.

• But your children won’t be around their grandparents!
  (Narcissists operate in the spirit of Jezebel (witchcraft, control, fakery, foolishness, buffoonery, all about image, gossip, manipulation, sweeping all issues under the rug, protecting pedos, etc). Curses have been BROKEN off of my children & bloodline because I am a CHAIN BREAKER. Ain’t no cowardice in me. THIS WALK IS FAITH OVER FEELINGS). My children have a real family. Keep taking your children around people who operate in the spirit of Jezebel & they will turn your children against you. They will place spells of rebellion, sexual immorality, mental illness, suicidal ideations, etc. over your children. Play with it if you want to…as for me & my house…)

• Why don’t you just forgive & let it GO?
  (How about I end this conversation with you right now so you can GO out of my face? How’s that?) Contrary to the Narcissistic Family By-Laws forgiveness does not require reconciliation. I CHOOSE to protect my inner child from those with a PROVEN history of pedophilia, sexual, emotional, & psychological abuse. I operate high & in WISDOM & that dear, is stupidity. Fool me once, shame on you…fool me twice, shame on me. And shame is a place I no longer RESIDE. I NO LONGER BETRAY MYSELF FOR A RELATIONSHIP WITH OTHERS. You can miss them & even remember the “good” times without acting on FEELINGS. My feelings do not control me.
• I forgive you..but stay away from me though.🤸🏽‍♀️Unforgiveness is a blessing blocker. I’m not blocking my blessings for ANYONE. I release anyone that has hurt me. I ask for forgiveness for those I have hurt. If I don’t forgive, it acts as a lay line & a soul-tie connection. I sever all soul ties, trauma bonds, & all family altars. I am Free. My life bears the fruit of a FREE WOMAN.

• Your family seems so…perfect. I don’t think they would do that!
• (I agree. They sure do. Most narcissists do. Narcissists specialize in creating the “perfect family image”. They specialize in appointing a scapegoat that bears the brunt of the abuse. This person is blamed, and labeled “crazy”, “bitter”, “unforgiving” and “disrespectful”. The family bands together to smear the scapegoat’s name and assassinate their character. They also stand by abusers and ostracise the truth-teller. Narcissistic families specialize in image and facade management. They look good on the outside but the family is chock full of secrets and unrepentant sin which they sweep under the rug at all costs. Instead of addressing the abuse and the abusers, they go against the designated scapegoat. If the scapegoat should ever speak out, the primary narcissist within the scapegoat’s life has already done a preemptive smear campaign. The family is also full of people who hear no evil, say no evil, and do no evil. They will say things to purposely invalidate the scapegoat to manipulate the truth. “That never happened.” “I don’t recall that!” “Why don’t you just move on!” Anything but actually address the abuse.
• When a scapegoat turns into a Chain Breaker they begin to break out of the family’s designated roles and out of enmeshment into their own God-given identity. Sadly, not every scapegoat becomes a Chain Breaker. Sometimes the abuse is so overwhelming that they feel they are not able to escape. Scapegoats face tremendous odds. This walk is not for the weak or faint of heart.

This page is for survivors. This page, channel, ministry & business is for taking wounded soldiers & transforming them into WARRIORS by the Blood of Yahshua HaMashiach.

Breaking Free Of The System

The truth is that I needed to be stripped. In order for me to become everything that I have been predestined to be, I needed to be refined & renewed. I needed to come out of everything & everyone that held me back from YAH’s purposes & plan. I am on a mission & assignment from the kingdom of Heaven to help set captives FREE.

It is not only common sense to stay away from toxic people IT IS BIBLICAL. Remember: All skin folk ain’t kinfolk.

Imagine trading my destiny & all those tied to my anointing for a narcissistic person and family. We are in a season where the wheat is being separated from the tare. Many are being called out of their biological relatives for their spiritual families. Like Joseph, I am going from the PIT TO THE PALACE. I will arise & shine for my Father’s glory. Who’s ready to go with me?

Walking away from a narcissistic, Jezebelic system is actually a blessing in disguise. I pray that more scapegoats realize that there is freedom in breaking away. Don’t feel sorry for us. Pray for those that stay. 

Let’s break those chains.

Genesis 12
The Lord had said to Abram, “Go from your country, your people, and your father’s household to the land I will show you. I will make you into a great nation, and I will bless you; I will make your name great, and you will be a blessing. I bless those who bless you, and whoever curses you I will curse, and all peoples on earth will be blessed through you.” So Abram went, as the Lord had told him;

If you would like to join my upcoming program, I urge you to join while it is available to you. My goal is to help women be healed and whole in Christ. There is no recovery program like this. Chain Breaker University (CBU) mentorship is all about sisterhood, spiritual, mental, emotional, and business development, warfare equipping, holistic healing in every area, and full recovery from narcissist abuse. Register today! Sessions begin in January 2023. Don’t miss your breakthrough. Register Today! Chain Breaker University January Sessions

Our stories are our stories. Do not expect your story to be exactly like mine or mine to be like yours. We all have varying levels of faith & varying circumstances. I can tell you the YAHWEH is no respecter of persons. Allow Him to lead your life & do not lean to your understanding. You may be low contact. You may stay within the narcissist or in the family system. I did what I was called to do.

Some may say, “What if it’s this or that?” “What if it’s my parent or my adult child?” “What if I can’t leave or what if I have no one?” Listen, I am here to lead you to the truth and shed awareness. I do not have a shelter (yet) or run a domestic abuse hotline. There are resources for that. I have used state resources to leave domestic abuse and you may have to as well. Please do not allow shame or a soul tie to hold you back. I do not have all the answers but I know my GOD does. Do what Holy Spirit is leading YOU to do. You can be limited by your own mindset. A mindset shift has to occur spiritually before you can ever be free physically. We do not see the whole staircase. We are led by FAITH step by step. Put on the full armor so that you can stand. Seek Holy Spirit counsel above ALL. Yes, that means above your pastor, family, friends, therapist, or coach. I pray this message gives someone hope & peace.

NOTE: If a victim chooses to stay in a narcissistic relationship or family, or doesn’t feel they can break free, that’s truly their choice. THIS ministry & business is about setting captives FREE. 💜 Deliverance is the children’s bread.

It’s birthing season.

Shalom,

Shannon 

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